2 Types of Adultery You Probably Didn’t Know About

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Everyone knows that physical adultery is when one man or woman has chosen to physically touch another person who is not their husband or wife in a sexual way. However, there are two more subtle and sneaky ways the devil tries to deceive a husband or wife into crossing the line into adultery. Are you aware of what they are?

1. Emotional Adultery

“The mouth of strange women is a deep pit: he that is abhorred of the Lord shall fall therein.” (Proverbs 22:14)

Emotional adultery can occur when one person shares their personal thoughts, feelings, and emotions with another person other than their husband or wife. This can be deceiving because a person can think they aren’t being unfaithful as long as they don’t touch the other person; however, emotional adultery is crossing the line into sin just as physical adultery does and can cause extremely serious problems in your relationship with your spouse and lead into physical adultery if not stopped.

Here are some examples of emotional adultery:

When a conversation becomes about personal topics instead of just business with a member of the opposite sex who is not your spouse
Discussing your marriage issues and problems with a person who is not your spouse
Discussing your sex life or experiences to a person who is not your spouse
When you feel attracted to a person’s personality or looks who is not your spouse and you don’t guard your heart
Having a friend of the opposite sex that you talk to or hang out with without your spouse
Anytime you have “chemistry” or unspoken attraction to the opposite sex who is not your spouse and you do not attempt to escape the situation (remove yourself from their presence)
When you provide inappropriate emotional support or comfort for a person of the opposite sex who is not your spouse (even if they claim they really need your help or that they are struggling with something). Also, if you receive inappropriate emotional support and comfort from a member of the opposite sex that is not your spouse.

2. Visual Adultery

“Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.” (Matthew 5:27-28)

Visual adultery is exactly what it sounds like; committing adultery with your eyes. Again, visual adultery can be deceiving as well since a person can think that as long as they aren’t physically touching someone other than their spouse, that they are not being unfaithful. Jesus proved this wrong when he said that if you just look with lust you have committed adultery in your heart.

I would define looking with lust as anytime you look at someone or someone’s body because you think they look good or might look good. This would be opposed to the normal routine of just noticing a person. You can notice a person has red hair, or is tall, has broad shoulders, etc., however, lusting is different than noticing. Lusting is when you intentionally direct your eyes towards a person or their body because it looks good or is sexually appealing to you.

When you look with lust, you look at a person as if they are an object and not a person with a personality and soul. Instead, you receive a little bit of sexual gratification from the glance. It’s just a small amount of pleasure you receive when you look so, because of that, it doesn’t make you feel that guilty and makes it easier to do again. This can open the door for a spirit of addiction as well because that little “feel good” moment you got from looking is so seemingly innocent and easy to accomplish that it becomes very easy to do and you can easily slip into being addicted to looking at people other than your spouse in lust.

“For the commandment is a lamp; and the law is light; and reproofs of instruction are the way of life: To keep thee from the evil woman, from the flattery of the tongue of a strange woman. Lust not after her beauty in thine heart; neither let her take thee with her eyelids. For by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread: and the adultress will hunt for the precious life. Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned? So he that goeth in to his neighbour’s wife; whosoever toucheth her shall not be innocent.” (Proverbs 6:23-29)

The Consequences

It is a fact that what the world thinks is wrong and right is not necessarily what God thinks is wrong or right. God’s standards are much higher. For example, the world says that as long as you don’t cross “third base” you haven’t sinned; however, when I was engaged to my husband the Lord let us know we were being too physical even with our hugs and that we needed to back off of each other and remain pure until we said “I do.”

There are a great deal of people in the world today who would think that is being too strict or religious. But the simple fact is God lays his laws on our hearts and when we sense the prompting of the Holy Spirit that says “don’t go there, you’re crossing the line,” then we need to listen or we could suffer the consequences of sin. There are actually things that already exist in the old times that is not utilize by many, it’s the used of cock cages. It may sound funny to most of us but it is effective in many ways, well when your genitals are locked up committing adultery is no easy feat.

“Every way of a man is right in his own eyes: but the Lord pondereth the hearts.” (Proverbs 21:2)

You might think you can get a away with indulging in a little “fun” sin for a while, but let me remind you that the cost is very, very high even just for a “little” sin. Each time and specific instance you commit adultery physically, emotionally, or visually you are inviting the enemy, Satan, and his demons into your life, your marriage and your home. Since you’ve given right to the enemy to come in, he can then work in your mind, your thoughts, and your actions to drive you further away from your spouse because Satan’s objective is to destroy you, your family, and your marriage.

Unhealthy soul ties could be created when you choose to lust after another person which could make it difficult to break free from the sin, needing God’s intervention to sever the tie. The pleasure of looking in lust, entertaining the idea of someone else, or having a “crush” on someone other than your spouse can be “fun” for a moment, but realize what you are signing up for when you do it. You could not only lose your wife/husband, your family, not be able to see your children anymore, pay hefty child support fines for a great deal of your life, be distant from your spouse and unsatisfied with them, bring strife and stress to your marriage and home, be a bad example to other believers, and send the message to others that you aren’t serious about following Jesus, but you would also be guilty before God and that is a scary thing.

“But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul. A wound and dishonour shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away.” (Proverbs 6:32-33)

So, what should you do? The Bible’s instructions are clear. Guard your heart and flee from evil. When you feel that hint of attraction, it’s time to flee. Get out of the situation as soon as you can because anything less is agreement with the adultery.

“A prudent man foreseeth the evil, and hideth himself; but the simple pass on, and are punished.” (Proverbs 27:12)

Clearly, the cost of committing adultery in any form is high. You have decide for yourself if it is worth it. One major pitfall is thinking you are “above” the sin and won’t do it. The Bible makes it clear in 1 Corinthians 10:12: “Wherefore let him that thinketh he standeth take heed lest he fall.”

“Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall.” (Proverbs 16:18)

So, what agreements come to mind that you have made with the enemy? You can ask forgiveness from God today, ask Him to fix what damage has already been done, and choose to turn away from sin. Turn them in to the authorities. Don’t let the enemy in… it’s just not worth the momentary pleasure!

Author: wildwildleft